Hello dear, I am Malissia

also known as Mistress Malissia

I am a former Professional Dominatrix who built a very successful and international career in the industry of Female Domination. Now my focus is female empowerment as I want to elevate women by building their confidence from the ground up.

I grew up in Montreal in a Bulgarian family. My parents immigrated to Canada right before I was born, during communism. They wanted their children to have a life of freedom and infinite possibilities. I was privileged to have access to high education and to travel from a very young age. I owe my innate boldness and ability to turn every obstacle into an opportunity to them.

My upbringing thought me a lot about courage and resilience, and provided me  with the values of determination, dedication and discipline in achieving your goals, which has served me incredibly on my path. 

I developed a sharp intuition and certainty that everything I desire, if I can conceive it in my mind, I can manifest it into reality, as long as I am willing to put in the work and not give up.

Now, scroll down to get a glimpse into my Mistress journey!

How the journey started...

Taking the leap

It all started back in 2017, when I left Montreal to move to Melbourne, Australia. I sold everything I owned and wanted to start anew, in a country that was calling me.

I was actually dating an Australian woman who I met in Montreal and we begun this incredible journey together... but that story is for another time!

We first lived in California for a few months, mostly in San Francisco where we both got to explore the kink scene together, and then we moved to Australia where everything shifted drastically. 

I realized that sometimes you need to let go of everything you know to actually find out who you truly are.  

My work as a Professional Dominatrix started from one day to the next. I first entered the scene under the name of Madam Jenna and shortly after renamed myself Mistress Lilith as I was ready to have a name that was more meaningful to embark on this journey of a lifetime.

Embodying my Mistress Self

The Mistress is not a role you play, but an extension of who you are.

My journey into the BDSM world, was immersive and my passion for what I was discovering about myself and the human mind in general, propelled me to be submerged by the desire to learn and experience more. 

I first joined the Seven Realms Art course offered by Lady Anne O Nomis as I wanted to extend my knowledge and skills, and kept signing up for courses, classes, attending events and parties, reading about kink continuously, going to New York City for an extended training in person, which all contributed to elevate me really fast in the industry. 

I was dedicated, determined and disciplined to make this my career. And on the path to achieve that, the main thing I realized is that along the way, through my Mistress persona, I was actually voicing my deep needs and desires.

My career really took off the moment I embodied this side of myself, with my shadow parts, completely. My bossy and capricious side along with my nurturing and caring side and also my seductive inner Femme Fatale. The Mistress was not a role I played, but through her, I gave myself permission to express and own all parts of myself, authentically and unapologetically. 

I had always been a dominant alpha woman, and in this realm, it was something that was sought after and even celebrated. 

A pivotal moment

Once you take yourself seriously, everyone else will.

In 2019, once I had anchored in a city and a space, I was committed to take my work seriously and rise to the top of my industry.

I started collaborating with fellow Mistresses, joining forces with other creative people in the community, rebuilt my website completely, and officially started my brand as Mistress Malissia.

I got to perform on stage a few times, was invited to walk on runways, to meet incredible photographers and even make fetish films, met with my first personal slave with who I traveled around the world, which are all things that overall impacted directly my lifestyle. 

I had set the bar to the kind of life I want to live. And at this point, what mattered more than what I was doing, was how I was doing it and who I was becoming in the process. 

The rise of the Digital Realm

Creating my virtual platform

After investing thousands of dollars into building a magnificent playspace, the pandemic made it challenging to host my sessions and welcome clients. But being resilient and creative, I saw it as an opportunity, like many other adult entrepeneurs during this time. 

I joined my first online platform, where I hosted regular events, challenged and overall curating an online experience, which allowed me to connect with clients around the world. There were no more borders and tons of bored subs emprisoned at home that felt liberated once they entered my virtual world. 

This period boosted my career and increased my income to a whole other level. I developed new skills and ways to practice domination without requiring to be in the flesh. 

It showed me how technology is something we can't get around and that if we learn to use it to its full potential, it can only make us grow exponentially. So I made the most of it!

The Ascendance of the Mistress

When everything skyrocketed

As the pandemic was finally coming to an end, it was for me this was the time to level up and bring my career to a whole other level. 

I started touring in the USA and in Europe, where I got to meet with clients I had connected with online for the past 2 years. In 2021, I scaled my business to multiple six-figures, was invited on podcasts to talk about my practice as a Professional Dominatrix, I appeared in alternative Fashion magazine, attended Kink events worldwide and started curating my infamous Babeland private women-only events.

I had 4 personal subs completely devoted and dedicated to me, two of which traveled with me and contributed immensely to my life. 

I also got to meet with fellow Dominatrices around the globe and build a world class reputation and network, allowing me to see the infinite potential of what I can create and how much this career is intertwined with the actualization of my true self.

My brand was now recognizable and impactful, but most importantly, I had crafted a practice that reflected my individuality and authenticity, based on my true desires and personality. 

Female Empowerment

The inauguration of the Mistress Mindset Brand

The more successful I was becoming, while also documenting my lifestyle, the more the demand for mentoring was increasing. 

At first I felt unqualified to offer any advice as I compared myself to the women teaching in the industry who had over 20 years of experience. 

Until one day, I realized that this was a limiting belief keeping me from sharing my own personal perspective and experience, which could massively help women who looked up to me and were on the same journey as me.

It is precisely because I was young and had created a masterpiece of a career in less than 6 years with a more modern approach that women were inspired by me.

So I created my first program, focused only on empowering women using the tools and skills of a Dominatrix, which I called the Divine Domme Awakening. 

I hired a business coach to build this new coaching brand and wanted to make a trial. I decided to have 4 women and guide them for 2 months through the program I created. Just from mouth to ear, they ended up being 8 and we met in person for 8 weeks. 

And... the results blew me away! The transformations, the impact, everything showed me that I need to do more of this. It sparked a new flame of desire in me: empower and elevate women at a large scale. 

From humbling men to empowering women, I felt like both of my practices were perfectly complementing each other and it brought me immense satisfaction. This allowed me to scale my business to a whole other level and to see new opportunities for growth in terms of personal and professional achievement.

I got invited to offer a workshop in Amsterdam shortly after that and launched my first course of BDSM and FemDom 101, followed by a workshop on Sacred Kink, and then Seduction Mastery. 

It was the beginning of something big that I had no idea was going to impact my own life immensely. From creating a powerful community of women who support each other and collaborate instead of compete, to making alliances with other impactful women, it was a new turning point for my life and I was ecstatic about it!

My new reality

As everything in my career was growing and blowing, so was a little being within my body. In 2022, I got pregnant and once again, everything shifted.

Matrescence

Pushing new boundaries

In the midst of my success and my career taking off, I was faced with a big choice that would impact my whole life. Becoming a Mother. 

My pregnancy was not planned, although it was secretly desired and something that I would have not planned in the near future, being an ambitious high-achiever with huge goals and just turning 30. 

The how, what, when, with who, is a story for another time. But let's just say this: I decided to take on the challenge. I have always been someone who seeks to explore the edges of my being, push my own boundaries, test my limits and constantly expand. Well, this decision offered me an opportunity for all this and more!

The most challenging part, outside of the physical, psychological and emotional changes, was to redefine my identity. I realized I had built such a strong identity connected to my Mistress Self, that I was not sure of who I was outside of Her.

Until it all clicked: I made her, I created her, she was an extension of me, not the other way around. So far, Mistress Malissia was running the show, as I was backstage, and this was an opportunity to showcase the multi-dimensional being that I am and to embrace this new chapter fully. 

I was resisting to let got of a lot of attachments, but being a leader that guides people into surrender, it was my turn to surrender and trust. 

the Dominatrix Academy

From Mistress to HeadMistress

As I was 4 months into my pregnancy, I launched my Dominatrix Academy, where over 40 women signed up, in person and online, to be trained by me. 

This was a game changer in itself. I had already started offering coaching for the past year, thinking of what's next, as my career and income had reached what felt like the maximum of what I can make as a Professional Dominatrix who does not sell clips online.

The demand for mentoring was so high and steady, that I had started contemplating the possibilities over a year ago. 

And now, with this new reality, I took the leap. And within a week I had my in-person container full. 

I thought it would be a one-off, closure program, but the demand kept rising and increasing, and the impact and feedback I kept receiving inspired me to offer another round, to build more courses and programs, and fully dive into the coaching industry as a female empowerment coach. 

From Mistressery to Matriarchy

Embodying a new Archetype

In February 2023, I gave birth to my son Davio. On that day, I also rebirthed into a new iteration of myself.

Everything I had been told about motherhood, that I had read, that I had planned, could never prepare me for what it actually means and entails.

I thought my Mistress Self was the most powerful version of me, until I gave birth. Now I actually feel the infinate and innate power women possess. 

Women bring to life the humans that come into this world, with our bodies, with our resilience, with our surrender, with our courage. 

I am now redefining what I want, who I want to be, how I want to live, completely as I am sitting on the throne of my motherly power. 

And what I came to realize is that my whole journey as a Dominatrix was not only groundbreaking, but essential for me to now stand as a trailblazer in the industry and serve a model of what is possible. 

I want to be an example and not an exception, to guide and elevate other women now to unleash their full potential and walk on their path to personal power with confidence and grace!

Exploring new horizons

From Darkness to Light

And here we are, full circle, where I once again sold everything I owned and moved from Montreal. 

Truth be told, I always saw palm trees in my vision of my best life, so in that train of thought, I always knew I would one day leave Canada! And after playing in the underground for years, right now I just want to bathe in the sun!

Now, since July I am in Cape Town, South Africa, where I am once again rebuilding my website, but this time to fit with my new path as a Female Empowerment Coach. 

I am on a mission to buy a house where I can ground myself and have a home for my baby, but also for it to be a grandiose space where I will throw workshops and events that are out of this world! 

If you have ever crossed my path, this is something you know: no matter what I do, whether I work as a Mistress or as a coach or host an event, I am before and foremost an artist who specialize in curating unique experiences. And that is what I plan on doing no matter where I land.

Adventure Awaits!

Remember...

Transformation can occur in a single moment; it hinges on the unwavering pursuit of your desires, the conscious decision to follow them, and the discipline to see them through."